Advice & Support


If the Pension in your divorce was under-valued you will have lost thousands of pounds. Divorce Lifeline check this for you at no cost - and if you have a claim it DOES NOT involve your former spouse at all.

Obtaining a divorce can be straightforward if both parties agree that the marriage is over. However, difficulties can arise in resolving how and when to separate, where to live, and the arrangements for children and finances.

The only grounds for divorce are that your marriage has irretrievably broken down and one of five 'facts' must be proved:

(2)unreasonable behaviour
(3)desertion for at least two years
(4)separation for at least two years with consent
(5)separation for over five years (consent not required)

If one of the five facts applies, what happens next?
It is often sensible to try to obtain your partner's consent to the divorce and try to reach agreement over the contents of the petition. Only a brief outline of circumstances needs to be given at this stage.

What about the children?
A form is also sent to the court with the divorce petition which will outline the arrangements for your children. The law encourages couples to try to agree those arrangements. Divorce proceedings still continue if no agreement is reached.

How long does the divorce process take?
The divorce takes approximately four-six months although the Decree Absolute is often not obtained until the finances are resolved. This may be much later.

Click for the procedure to issue divorce proceedings.

(All information courtesy of Blake Lapthorn Tarlo Lyons)

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Armchair Advice includes tools to assess the strength of your relationship; guidance and practical strategies to help you improve it; financial, emotional advice and divorce law, if you decide to end your relationship or marriage; and helpful tips on starting afresh.

Help and Advice for all aspects of everyday life - money, health, education, legal system: anything you might need extra help with whilst going through a divorce.

Advice re. relationship breakdown and your children, solicitors, courts, child’s welfare during court proceedings and getting a divorce

An independent group of professionals providing divorce advice, support and information.

Started in 1999, Divorce Aid now helps thousands of people across the UK and internationally every week.
Their motto is: 'Whatever your situation and wherever you are, we hope to provide divorce advice, support and information on any matter concerning you.'
The welfare of any child involved is paramount and they promote mediation and counselling as well as good, professional legal advice. They also promote collaborative family law as a new dignified approach to divorce.

Full of information and useful advice and links – set up by a divorced accountant who did a lot of research and has found information and internet sites that helped him.

If you are going through a divorce and you and your ex-spouse are looking at dividing up your assets, the Court is required to take your pension rights into account.

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St Mary's Church, Longstock

We have a vacancy for a Priest In Charge (Rector designate for Mid Test Benefice)

Romsey Deanery

Priest-in-Charge for the Benefice of Broughton with Bossington and Houghton and Mottisfont and The Test Valley Benefice; Rector Designate for the proposed Mid-Test Benefice

We are seeking an enthusiastic Priest who will

Lead us in developing fresh mission plans, valuing our strengths, seeking growth and serving the common good

  • Provide clear leadership and direction as we explore deeper benefice collaboration
  • Help us all to grow in love and knowledge of God

We offer

  • Our wholehearted commitment to reaching our communities
  • Well cared for churches in an outstandingly beautiful but accessible environment
  • A positive team, committed to restructuring life and administration to liberate your gifts and ours
  • A well-located 4 bed roomed detached rectory
  • A willingness to change and experiment with new ways of worship, learning and mission

For an informal conversation contact:

The Ven Dr Peter Rouch, Archdeacon of Bournemouth on 01962 710960

Closing date:   11 October 2018 at 12 noon

Interviews:      4 & 5 December 2018

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